Heh.. it has been a great 5 months and 5 days so far.. between the leoistic us..
I reminisce the day when I proposed to her with the rings.. Seriously, I was really sincere and I was naive enuff to not tink abt failures.. some pple like to say I'm confident.. but.. not really, not at that instant when I decided to buy and bought the rings for her.
Road have been smooth and patchy and even rocky sometimes.. Yes, they're normal and I noe that they're normal.. I believe dearie noe too.. even tho I just got to find out that dearie nv reveal many of her bad points even to Ed previously.. I believe dearie's sensible enuff to tink and understand situations that happen.. and when u can do that.. its onli a matter of accepting what had happened and go on with life in the best way that you can from there. Its hard, of course.. Always easier said than done.
As the days go by, we got to know each other more.. and I'm more than glad to say that we're already on our road to a stable rs.. rough patches started arising abt a month ago when we knew each other so much better than compared to Day 1.. we saw many points for each other to change for a better person.. and when we fell while making those changes.. noticing that we took each other for granted in some ways.. we are always there to support each other. How great can a couple get than to be there for each other as and when they Can do it? I feel strongly that that is a great achievement so far for the both of us as a new couple. CheeRs to that!
I always believed that in a relationship.. there's more than MANY to compromise..advised kindly by one of my greatest colleague in my office. Its up to individual whether they want to do it.. and if they do, how they want to do it.. Some many couples did change.. but they did them blindly for the sake of the relationship or rather.. their want and need for each other in the rs. They don't see the point that the purpose of making the changes is for the person to become a better living person.. and by doing so.. the other party will respect and admire and love him or her more because he is a good person. In the first place, why you fell in love with the person have to be sparked off by the fact that you find him a nice person to be with or somewhere ard there. It is a thin line separating between changing for yourself and changing for the rs. However, I believe recognising it is more than needy.
When one change for the rs.. you'll find it tiring as time goes by.. because the rs is not you ultimately.. that applies to before marriage because I do not noe how after-marriage is like. When you make changes for yourself so you can improve to be a better person.. you will be more motivated because in the end.. its you who benefit the most.. because whilst becoming a better person.. you'll also be more respected and admired for by your partner.. thus nurturing the love and infatuation in each other.It sounds kinda selfish.. but I think one's growth to be a better person is more important now for youngsters of our age.. esp. the guy.. for the ladies are always more matured and they look far into the future..
It is important to noe what you're changing into and for what.. and not just blindly do it for the other. In the end.. it may not even end up being good because the girl may find you a person with no initiative to find out all those bad points and she muz be the one pointing it all out to you.. (you bet at that point of time.. it'd have been damn lots of things mentioned by her already that has caused her irritation at tat point to mention that the guy is a guy of no sense of initiative for self-improvement.
If one truly love the other.. and he always plan for the future ahead.. I think he should be changing for a better himself.. and the other partner is not wrongto mention abt things that she kan bu shun yan. IT APPLIES TO THE OTHER WAY ALSO. (In cap because the whole article i seem to be aiming at guys. but i'm not.). In a rs.. both should aim for it to be fruitful and besides indulging purely in bliss that usually only last for 3 months if nothing is done to nurture even deeper emotions and passion.. By making the rs fruitful in positive gains for both parties.. it'll definitely spark more interest in the rs for the both of them. =)
Darling.. I'll like to tell you that the above is my thoughts.. not my expectation of you..and pls do not feel obliged to agree.. just comment on it and we'll work things out together, like always. Okie?
I dun enjoy the quarrels with you.. I noe you dun too.. but seriously.. when I think abt it on another view.. on how the outbreak and noticing of each other's bad points will pave the future for us (that is if we both do make it to change for the better thus maintain the admiration and passion and affections for each other la..).. I can't help but feel delighted to have that outbreak that made me realise wat kind of person I am and what I should change so I can be a better man for myself, my family and you.
One good thing abt us.. we dun quarrel because we got moodswing.. when one person have moodswing.. the other's always trying to compromise to ease things down.. you're not the onli one who have moodswings, my dear.. =)
Also.. when we quarrel.. we sort things out properly.. we dun hide it inside too much.
We Listen.
We express ourselves well.
We are Madly in love(Just like other couples) but the best thing is.. We're Conscious! =)
Darling.. you've made me realized I've been quite a demanding person.. and even tho those I demanded are mostly changes for your temper and way of doing things.. I believe I should hush you down when I say things to you.. I'm sorry for being harsh sometimes.. and I'm sorry for not wiping your tears away sometimes.. you noe the reason why.. but still. I feel sorry about it cos it hurts me to see you tear..
You've also made me realized that I'm very stubborn.. and I like to have things my way.. characteristics of Leos.. but still, I'll make an effort to compromise as and when things are compromisable.. oki? Promise cannot take for granted le o.
I'll try my best to appreciate your hushing wheni'm down.. at least I'll acknowledge it and tell you it won't work, nicely. if its not gonna work oki? If cases like tat occurs.. I only need you if you're by my side.. to accompany me quietly.. I'll be getting over it myself.. =)
I will try to be more on abt trying things oki..
Dearie.. all in all, Thank you for making me a better person.. I hope this will continue as the rs mature.. and I believe if it does.. it will continue in a better fashion than now. As this is abt the first rough patch we walk thru.. its definitely hitting us harder than expected.. now that we noe the root problems.. we'll soon make a turn and approach the smooth and soft grassland again.
Trust me.
If you love me, Let me love you.
CheckOut~
Ray.
9:06 AM
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GQ/QinG/KK/Rukawa
Day of Generation:
09 AugusT 1984
ZodIaRk ~ LeO
Inner BeasT ~ Mice
Loves:
- Samsam/Samantha
- Basketball *Passion*
- Swimming
- Running
- BlooD *Craving*
- Sensual Pain~
- Kitties and Puppies *Cuddle*
- My brothers and sisters
- My Real family and my brother
- StrawBerriEs
- Hugx and Caresses
- Nibbles and Kisses
- Orgasms
- Well defined Muscles
- Flat Abs
- 34D =)
- Programming (Not a Geek either)
- Beach
- Getting Sun-Kissed
- Pple who dares to be themselves and not hide
- bitches sometimes :)
- Loves and Romance..
- To lend a helping hand/listenin ear at ALL times =)
- Betrayers
- Backstabbers
- Liars
- HypocRytes
- Pple who breaks promises
- Arrogant pple
- Pple who act holy
- Bastards
- Bittergourd
- NS
- Lazy pple/Pple w No Urgency
*Mei*~~Rong~~
GwenGwen
JiaYuan
*Mei*~~Rachel~~
Yu
Dael
Mike
Lester
Kenny
Desire~List
- DEARIE'S HUGX AND KISSES
- New Phone.. 6230I
- Nike Bag.. 82.95
- Abs.
- Bigger Biceps and Triceps.
- Better Complexion
- Better Health...
- Black Jeans
- Orange Shirt
- Grey Pants
- Black Leather Belt
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Samantha Yeo Su Yun
18 years old
Singapore Poly
Lifeguard, Financial Trade
Sports, swimming esp!, life-saving, shopping, taking pictures
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